I do not compare the men I have sex with. No one coming over
to go through the rituals need ever worry about how he will
stack up against the other men I have been with. I try to
treat every man as an individual and bring out the best
erotic (and spiritual, if I am going through our religious
rituals) response from each. There are obvious attributes
which must be compared, such as one man who is 7 feet tall
and another who is only 32 inches tall, and there are is one
man with an 11" cock while others range down to 3 inches, but
I do not compare them sexually. Cock size cannot be compared
when it comes to giving pleasure. I have had great orgasm
fucking men with 4-6 inch cocks, and have been so turned off
by the sexual technique of men with 7-9 inch cocks. As I
mention in the Chapter on Cock Size, all I have to do to
enjoy a small cock is squeeze my snapping pussy around it
How Men Compare
What Do You Call A Female Stud?
High Priestess of the Church of The Most High Goddess
I suppose one can't help but think of some men being
great pussy eaters or fantastic fucks. But I have found that
men and women vary so greatly in the things that turn them on
and how they turn me on, that comparing them sexually would
be like comparing apples to oranges.
If the man enjoys the same sexual activities that I do,
naturally, that makes him rate as a good lover. I do have sex
occasionally with men and women outside of my religious
rituals, but since I devote all of my time to my religion, I
seldom have time for social encounters. Usually it's a
spontaneous meeting whenever and wherever the opportunity
(and the penis) arises. This seems to disturb some people.
They think it's terrible, or else they say I'm not very
religious because I fuck men when I feel like it. But there
are many protestant ministers and Catholic priests who drink
wine socially, not just during their religious ceremonies and
they are not condemned or thought less of because of this.
Having a glass of wine can be a social drink or a religious
ritual depending on the way in which it is done and the
purpose for which it is done. So it is with me, sex can be a
social encounter or a religious ritual depending on the way
performed and the purpose of the activity.
I would never take a lover who did not eat pussy. This
shook up one interviewer from a T.V. show who came over to
the Church building to tape a segment for his show. In the
course of the interview I described the ritual of dedication.
The token a person, man or woman, gives of his commitment to
a spiritually hedonic life is to perform oral sex on the
priestess, to eat my pussy. The symbolism is that the man is
putting himself in the same position as he was when he came
into this world, his head between a woman's legs. The
interviewer, who was black, said, "Black guys don't eat
pussy.". I had news for him. All the white guys, black guys,
brown guys, yellow guys and red guys or any other shade of
guy eats my pussy or they don't do anything with me.
People eat pussy in a variety of ways. Some men start on
the thighs and nibble their way up to the more important
parts. Others start at my breasts and work their way down.
I'm a very sexually responsive person, I don't need a lot of
foreplay. I'm hot all the time and it doesn't matter if they
start at my toes or my forehead, they all work their way to
my pussy, and getting there is just part of the fun and
A lot of the supposed sex manuals will tell people to
start at the toes and kiss their way up, or give a body
massage or turn on soft music, turn down the lights, send
flowers etc. That's all very nice, but when you get right
down to it, how a man licks my clit is more important than
what he does to get to my clit. All of those acts are to get
a woman so she will let you lick her clit. If you're bad at
eating pussy, or don't eat pussy, you might as well make love
to the flowers instead of sending them to the woman.
One considerate forethought for men I cannot stress too
much is, if you do not have a beard, please have a close
shave. I enjoy beards or mustaches, but leave your three day
stubble on the razor's edge. I shave my pussy every day to be
nice and smooth for your lips and tongue. Please don't
sandpaper my clit. The same is true for women who don't
shave. The rough stubble of a man's beard irritates the
thighs and genital area of any woman.
Back to licking my clit. (Please!)
I love to have my pussy eaten, as do most women. I do
not like my clit sucked. I know girls that love being sucked,
they can't get off any other way - but suck mine and you'll
be asked to "get off", so it's best to ask.
When I was making the video, "When Love Came to Town", I
found that Stephanie Rage liked to be sucked, so I did, and
she gasped with pleasurable surprise. I could feel it was
real with her and not acting. But unfortunately cameras like
to see tongues sticking out and licking clits so most of the
enjoyable stuff isn't seen by the viewer. But it is worth
watching anyway. When Stephanie was eating me, my orgasm was
so intense that my hips bounced up and my pelvis hit her lip.
She was upset that he lip might be swollen and look terrible,
but fortunately it wasn't. I do sometimes have very wild
orgasm but I've never broken anyone's nose, yet. Stephanie
just wasn't used to a woman actually having an orgasm on
I have another actress friend, Mai Lin, (that great
oriental so many men have been drooling over for years) who
says she is most erotically stimulated by licking around the
entrance of the vagina rather than on her clit. That is my
second most sensitive area. A man or woman has to try
different areas and see what sets the hips in motion. That's
how you learn to communicate with your partner by reading her
Sticking a tongue inside my cunt doesn't do much for me
or most other women either. Let's face it, tongues aren't
generally as long as cocks (though one guy did send me a
letter in which he stated he could lick his eyebrows with his
tongue). I know personally, and from what I have read, most
of the pressure sensitive sense organs on other women are
located to the back of the vagina, so a tongue just doesn't
make it. A tongue can feel its way around a clit very
adroitly, so that's the place to use it. Feel for that little
lump of a clit. It's often hidden under a layer of skin.
Don't leave it when the woman is about to have an orgasm so
you can stick your tongue in her cunt.
I respond best to a regular motion. Guys who stop and
start, lick here and there and are very irregular do not let
an orgasm build. I start getting used to a rhythm, my body
gets moving towards orgasm and its, oops, he's off on a
different spot. If he does it again, he's completely off the
spot, because I don't continue. I tell a man what I like and
if he doesn't want to do it my way, neither do I.
The one thing which many woman object to in pussy eating
is that the guy is too rough. I have large labia -- many men
have said my cunt looks like a flower. Some guys will pull
the labia back to try to uncover the clit. This can be very
uncomfortable, even painful. Clits can be stimulated very
nicely without being exposed. In fact, when most women
masturbate with their own hands, they put pressure over the
top of the fold, they do not spread it out. Probably the idea
of spreading wide comes from seeing so many XXX-rated videos
in which the guy spreads the woman's labia to show the cunt
off better -- "Showing Pink". Men like to look at a woman's
cunt, but if you are rough, that may be all you'll do is
look. Sex on film is shot for the visual effect not to be
taken as a sex technique manual. My advice is to start off
gentle and increase pressure and speed. Let the woman tell
you if she wants things done harder or faster.
If a man can play with my nipples while he eats my
pussy, so much the better. I have very large, raspberry sized
nipples that get hard and erect when I'm aroused. They are a
real mouthful and love to be sucked. I am fortunate to be
able to have orgasms from nipple stimulation alone, so when
several of my erotic areas stimulated at one time it is even
That goes for when I'm fucking also. When I'm going
though the rituals I used the priestess position, that is
with the woman on top, in contrast to the missionary position
where the man is on top. In the Priestess position a man can
easily play with my nipples as I ride up and down on his
cock. I can lean forward to rub my clit on his pelvic bone
while his cock is stimulating me from the inside. I had a guy
the other night who loved it that way--a back and forth
motion where I rub on my clit on his pelvis. It was
fantastic. Most guys prefer an up and down notion which gives
more stimulation on their cock.
If the guy doesn't have his hands on my nipples, then he
usually has them on my ass. I can tell by the tightness with
which he holds on to me how close he is building to orgasm. I
pump up and down faster and faster as I feel him squeeze
tighter. His head turns from side to side with oh's and ah's
from his lips. Finally he thrusts his pelvis up as his cock
explodes inside me. I push forward to feel him as his
deepest. Our bodies merge together. Then I start a slow
undulating notion as the waves of pleasure roll over us. I
collapse on top of him in an embrace, relaxing, enjoying the
quiet afterglow of orgasm.
I have tried just about every position imaginable. The
Illustrated Karma Sutra has nothing over my repertoire.
Through experimentation I have found what feels best for me
and have enough experience to be able to find something that
works for any man.
I do enjoy the missionary position, because when the man
is lying with his pubic area on my clit he is at his maximum
depth. I like to be screwed in that position. By screwed, I
mean a circular motion like the cock is a screw being turned
into a hole, my cunt. That way I feel the cock pushing
against the walls of my vagina all around. Plus, if the man
is lying on top, I get clitoral stimulation as he rotates. If
a guy is riding high and watching his cock going in and out
of my cunt, that doesn't do much for me. I get little
clitoral stimulation and not much vaginal stimulation either
because it is the back parts of the vagina that are more
sensitive to pressure stimulation. If I am on top, I can move
his cock around so I get the most pleasure, and he gets the
pleasure of watching his cock go in and out of me.
The only time a man's cock size means anything to me is
when there is at least 7 inches of it which can actually
reach inside me. It is only with men who have 7-11 inch cocks
that I am able to have a vaginal orgasm, one which emanates
from deep inside and not from my clit. To come from deep
inside, the cock has to be long enough to reach deep inside.
In the doggy position - woman on hand and knees with the
man shoving his cock in the cunt form the rear - I get very
little clitoral stimulation. I do enjoy that position however
if another man or woman is lying under me eating my pussy and
playing with my nipples while I'm being fucked.
One of the biggest turn offs to me is the "holier than
thou attitude". I'll be talking to a guy who is trying to
pick me up and I'll mention that I am the High Priestess of
the Church of the Most High Goddess and that I perform sexual
rituals with man, many men. Then he may make a comment like
"With all those men, are you safe?". Like, he may have had
sex with only one man -- a bisexual Haitian, I.V. drug user -- and he's concerned about my cleanliness. Quantity in itself
doesn't make a person subject to infection. I'm very
selective with the people I have sex with. If the man doesn't
have a disease, he can't give one to you.
Another turn off is when a man is making advances and
I'll say, let's go have sex, then he backs off with, "Do you
do this all the time?"
"Yes, I do it all the time." Does the guy really think
the Virgin Mary would have sex with him on the first
encounter? That attitude not only pisses me off, but it is
biggest turn off for other women also. I have been told by
other sexual, good looking women, (even one XXX - video
actress) that when a guy hits on her and she says yes very
easily, the guy backs with a "well, you must be some kind of
slut", attitude. Some men don't appreciate sexual women. If
the woman is easy to get, then they feel she's not worth
having. Guys like that are very immature. They are usually
young and uneducated and don't have sex very often because
they are turn offs to sexual women.
Another turn off for me and for a lot of women, is to
have a finger shoved in my cunt. Fingernails are dirty,
sharp, uncomfortable and the easiest way to get a vaginal
infection. Kids who don't fuck may find it the only way to
have fun, but if the woman moves her hips aside when you try
to finger fuck her, use your tongue instead and keep your
fingers out of her cunt.
Probably the biggest turn off for women when they are
having sex with a man - for the last time - is for a guy to
ask what the woman likes done to her and them after he's been
told in detail, he goes about doing what he wants, the way he
wants without any regard for her desires. With me that ends
things very quickly. Other women will continue but never have
sex with the guy again.
To make it very clear -- attitude is the biggest initial
turn off. If a woman is willing to have sex with you, don't
treat her like scum. Treasure her, appreciate her, give her
pleasure and she'll come back for more. By understanding the
negative traits of some men, a soon-to-be-great-lover can use
them as a positive approach to have sex with a great many
women. If you learn from the mistakes other men make, they
won't repeat them and you will repeat the woman.
One of the national talk shows did a segment in which
women came on the show and bragged that their husbands were
the worlds greatest lovers. Their husbands were the only man
they had ever fucked, and these women were supposed to know
what a great lover was? You don't have to compare men or rate
them 1-10 in order to know that any woman who has only fucked
one man in her life doesn't know whether another man is good
or bad, or if the one she has is really any good. It's like
the old joke about the woman whose husband told her that he
was the only man in the world who had a cock. One day his
wife confronted him and stated that the "milkman" also had a
cock. The husband thought for a moment and then recalled that
he did have 2 cocks once and gave the other one to the
milkman. Of course his wife wanted to know why he gave the
milkman the best one.
Great sex is more than just what feels good at the time.
It's what feels good every time. And making sex great
requires a commitment to having great sex whenever and
wherever the opportunity arises.